Ah, love! Is there another matter that conjures up songs, poems, books and different artistic works greater than love? Such a “rabbit gap” of a subject, identical to in Alice in Wonderland, particularly when involving spirituality.

When one asks the query, “What’s God?” the reply can rightly be given as, “God is LOVE.” It’s mentioned additionally that God is infinite, in each atom of creation, and that universe itself is produced from Love.  Properly, no surprise there are such a lot of songs written about it!

One thing tells me, nonetheless, that you’re not studying this since you want to enter right into a philosophical discourse on the character of the universe. Maybe although, you want to a dialogue that is a little more sensible. Properly, good — as a result of as huge as the subject of affection and relationships is, there is a really sensible aspect to them. It might certainly be enjoyable to fantasize about discovering your one real love whereas launched into a magical quest to slay dragons, however there are pragmatic steps that one can take to manifest a religious companion and relationship in the actual world.

After I got here onto the religious path I used to be a single man in my 20s. I had already been open to discovering a perfect life companion however solely had a couple of arduous classes and failed relationships to point out for my efforts. I knew, nonetheless, that my quest for Self-realization was extra essential than anything and that solely a companion who shared my religious aspirations might fulfill this want. I started this quest in earnest by asking for some recommendation.

Discovering the One

Recommendation on discovering a mate can sometimes contain the what-to-look-for selection, however the steering I obtained has helped me to today, even in different areas of my life. After I requested my religious mentor what to do, she requested, “What do you think about will probably be totally different in your life when this want is fulfilled?” This query gave me pause. I actually needed to assume arduous about it. I imply… I might stay “fortunately ever after,” proper? Discovering the proper companion was one thing I had wished for therefore lengthy however I spotted I had by no means thought to query the longing in that means.

I started to see the aim behind that query. I couldn’t have or ask for a unique type of life if I used to be not prepared to take motion and make some modifications NOW.  One other query got here logically to me: “So what might you be doing NOW to manifest these issues in your life that you’re asking for?”  I used to be asking for somebody to like – a religious companion. I might have somebody to like in my life however I wanted to do some issues in a different way to deliver that about. I rapidly realized that there are many folks to present like to NOW.  After all, it wouldn’t be precisely the identical because the romantic love I sought, however on an impersonal stage, I might be training channeling God’s love for His youngsters. Isn’t that the best expression of affection anyway?

I wished a companion who was excellent for me in a number of methods and I understood that I wanted to increase and rework myself into a perfect companion for her as effectively. I set about making a life for myself that would come with, and make room for, the entire advantages I might think about having as soon as I discovered my supreme companion. After I felt prepared, I trusted that the Divine Mom would introduce me to her.

I did actually, meet my companion a couple of years later. I might see then how each “failed” try to search out her was really an essential step and lesson that made me a greater man and higher companion for her. After I checked out among the different difficult areas of my life, I used to be additionally capable of see the identical steps and patterns.

Magnetism Issues

I rapidly realized that there was one other, deeper fact behind that follow-up query, a profound precept that I used to be meant to extra absolutely perceive: magnetism. Yogananda mentioned that it’s the magnet of our coronary heart that pulls true soul mates and we enhance our magnetism by the standard and amount of our power. I understood that if I used to be to draw a perfect mate, I needed to enhance my magnetism.

However how? Simply as a paper clip will be made right into a magnet by intentional contact with a powerful magnet, so can we enhance our magnetism by divine contact with God, the supply of all power and energy. Deep meditation, chanting, training God’s presence, and different religious practices all assist us enhance our religious magnetism. The extra we are able to discover our heart in God, the extra we discover out who we actually are as particular person human beings.

Each atom in creation is inextinguishably dowered with individuality. —Paramhansa Yogananda

Yogananda mentioned that each atom of creation is dowered with individuality. We’re every distinctive, but at our deepest heart, we’re all the identical in our want to like and be liked. Though our deepest needs for everlasting love can solely be fulfilled by union with the Divine, it’s completely dharmic to discover a mate for shifting towards fulfilling and expressing these divine needs inside this lifetime.

Now that I knew HOW to discover a companion and felt that I used to be doing all the things I might, in need of standing on a busy road nook as a strolling sandwich board: SOUL MATE WANTED, it was only a matter of ready and trusting. That is the a part of the method you not often hear about. As a result of often, it’s boring — and arduous. It’s a bit like having a yearning for cucumbers and planting the backyard for them — you’re certain to get cucumbers they usually’re certain to be nice however you continue to should water the backyard, be affected person, and have religion and belief that Mom Nature will do her job and provide help to out, earlier than the outcomes.

My Motion Steps

So, I waited. I trusted that Divine Mom would information me in all the things and anything that wanted to occur.

• I saved up my day by day meditation practices.
• I chanted every time I might.
• I practiced the presence of God utilizing any approach that impressed me.
• I tuned into the standard of affection I wished to really feel for and from my life companion.
• I gave that high quality of affection to everybody I might in no matter type I might.

For this final one — whether or not it was a sort gesture, a pleasant dialog or perhaps a smile whereas passing a stranger on the road, I did all that I might to tune into that power of affection at the start. I spotted that this love was not mine. I didn’t create it, I used to be merely appearing as a channel for God’s like to share with others round me.

Excellent Imperfection

My efforts weren’t seamless and I did make a little bit of a mistake that I believe is a standard one. I assumed that discovering “the one” can be an finish in itself. I assumed that this particular individual can be excellent for me and one way or the other “full” me. I imply, discovering the right individual would, after all, make your entire life fortunately excellent and all your troubles would fade away right into a sea of romantic bliss! Marriage books have been about the best way to handle all of the endless happiness that floods your being along with your excellent mate, proper? Properly, not precisely. That’s a romantic delusion.

In actuality — on the earth of duality, each success attracts its reverse. That “dream job” might include a “nightmare boss,” or that new child you’ve been ready for might imply that you simply lose the entire single friendships you’ve loved and cultivated since center college. The record goes on, however you get the concept that, to find your life companion, the precept of duality nonetheless applies. Your companion might certainly be lovely and fantastic but can even come into your life with their very own quirks and idiosyncrasies. They might absolutely be most loving and serene, however from their forgetting a birthday or one thing else essential you would possibly understand simply the other.

How, then, are we to narrate to nature’s duality and this eager for a mate? The nice ones information us to attempt to be even-minded within the face of loss or acquire – as all on this materials world is fleeting besides God. We are able to take into account, too, that irrespective of how lengthy we’re alive, irrespective of how lengthy we’re with our companion, the day will come after we are again within the astral world reflecting on our lives and all that we’ve discovered right here. What’s it, then, we need to acquire – or assume we’ll study from the expertise of getting the right mate on this lifetime?

Love Divine

That reply will probably be totally different for every particular person but when we’re critical, as effectively, about our seek for God, then the will for a mate will probably be a subset of our want to know and discover God. It’s completely acceptable to ask God for a mate who will assist deliver each of you nearer to Him in a relationship supporting one another’s religious progress and improvement.

Contemplate that our needs generally transcend what we really assume we would like — like after I say I need a good chilly soda however what I actually need is to be hydrated and nourished. After I lastly get the soda, it’s solely after it’s gone in three gulps and my abdomen feels humorous for the subsequent hour that I notice that wasn’t what I actually craved. On a deeper stage, God is aware of and watches the guts.  It’s as much as us to belief that what’s actually finest for us is healthier left to Him.

We’re all on a religious path, whether or not we’re merely inquisitive about religious teachings and ideologies or sincerely dedicated to a selected path, educating and lifestyle. If the want for a religious companion and relationship is robust for you, manifesting and fulfilling such needs begins with loving these round you, rising your magnetism and trusting that all the things that involves you is in your highest good.

We’re “dowered with individuality” however on the subject of love, we’re all alike in the necessity to love and be liked. Might every day deliver you nearer to discovering your coronary heart’s want. God Bless you.

Initially revealed: February 18, 2020